If your child is moving out of your home for the first time or out of a dorm situation, their first home can an exciting milestone in their life. If your child needs your help with moving in, it is a good idea to be supportive while also treading lightly with advice. Here are four things that you can do to help your child have a successful first move.
1. Stay Positive About Your Child's First Space
If your child has a limited income from their job or they are student, they might not have a lot of extra cash to spend on rent. If their new space is less than ideal, try to seek out the positives and offer up ways to bring these to light with decor. It is important to step in as a parent if there is anything that seems unsafe about a space, but otherwise try not to make comments about shabby walls or small spaces if your child seems happy.
2. Offer to Help But Don't Micro-manage
If your child seeks out your help for an upcoming move, this can be a fun way for you to bond over this life event. Offer to set up movers or to help with any move-related tasks, but let your child run the show if they are serious about their move. Be there for what they need, whether this is organizing, heavy lifting, or packing and unpacking.
3. Find Budget Decor Together
If your child is low on furnishings, this can be a fun part of a move in if you can get creative. You might not be in a place to help your child purchase all new furnishings for their place. You can help them scour furniture listings online and go to secondhand shops to find unique pieces on a budget. If you are planning on upgrading your own living room or bedroom at home, see if your child would like any of your pieces, but don't push it if they don't seem interested.
4. Get Your Child a Welcome Home Gift
A great way to show your child how proud you are of their move is to get them a welcome home gift. This should be something fun that they wouldn't necessarily get for themselves, such as new sheets, a kitchen appliance, or a gift certificate to a home decor store nearby. Don't push your own tastes on your child with artwork, rugs or shower curtains.
Helping your adult child out with grown up events such as a move in can be fun for both of you, but it is important not to cross the line from helping to taking over. By taking on a supportive role, your child will feel as if they are empowered in their choices. You can be there for them if they need your help or advice along the way.